Ever have someone lie about you? Tell tall tales just to cover up their own bad behavior? I have and more recently by someone who I met online, never even met them in person!
This all happened just as we were about to embark on all those crazy Eclipses in June and in fact it was over the summer that this experience escalated to where I actually took action against him!
Somehow in my own New Age community, I have been able, for the most part, to meet some stellar people, and in fact, I put many of them on my own show, Cafe Esoterica Radio on Blog Talk Radio.com (now also broadcasting on Stitcher.com, TuneIn.com & live to watch on YouTube.com under Cafe Esoterica Radio!)
But this one floored me. It was like a "wham, bam, thank you M'am" story! One I thought was long ago dead, dead to the archives of chauvanist males who only ever cared about themselves and satisfying their own lust and yet at the ripe age of 62 years old, it happened to me!
It went something like this. I was online late at night, which is my want. I am always up late now, writing my latest book, or preparing my shows. It was 2:30am on June 9th, 2018. I belong to loads of Astrological groups on Facebook. I have been a professional Astrologer since the year dot, no, honestly since 1969 when I first read Linda Goodman's Sun Signs...age 13. I was lucky enough that my mother, who was an actress in Pittsburgh, where I grew up, had been invited to an aftershow party and there was Linda Goodman signing her new book. And so as the fates or stars would have it, I got to have this book come right into my home! That was so meant to be and for me as my mother was not that into astrology. But the hippies and their love, music, sex, drugs and esoterica was coming into popular culture faster than you could say Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds! I began my love of Astrology there and it has only ever grown since!
I digress, so back to here and now... so I went on to become a Professional Astrologer, a person who helps others with the beautiful tool which all people who are interested in Metaphysics value, Astrology. And as the ancients knew, is a profound tool for studying not just the stars, planets and Gallaxy but the most in depth soul of the person whose chart you, as the Astrologer, have had the grace and priviledge to be allowed to view and discuss. Because after all, we are speaking about someone's life and their soul and we, as professionals, do not want to do any HARM to that person, right? RIGHT!
So here is what happened to me, back on June 9th, 2018, there I was minding my own business at 2:30am and read something in one of the many Astrology groups on Facebook I belong to, then did what I always do, thunbs up, clicked "like" on it. Well, within seconds someone jumped on to my FB chat box and wanted to speak to me, and I realized ("with my real eyes", as he would say!) that it was the author of this piece I had just liked. Oh, ok, I will accept and speak to him and I did.
Big mistake, huge mistake, bad, bad mistake!
And here is why...without going into personal details, he liked me way too soon without even knowing me, he decided he was interested in me and as soon as he could there were our charts. I had not even took the time to look at his but he was clearly looking at mine, my progressed chart and our relationship chart! There were some strong connections, I can't deny that. His North Node on my Sun and Mercury in his 7th house. I just did a show on Cafe Esoterica Radio last night about the "shadow" and the 7th house (please see link below to show) and how it is all about relationships and how the shadow sabatoges them if not heard and worked out. Within our chart aspects, it was clear, he was meant to learn something from me, and here is the rub, he was 30 years younger than me. Yes, a whole whopping Saturn cycle, and in fact his Saturn is in Sag like mine is, but mine is at the beginning of it and his later dedgrees. If you do not understand the "Astrologese" never mind,that is not important. What was important is that I had never heard of him before, and he told me he is on You Tube and mades loads of videos. I began watching them, since he had asked me out and I decided, even stressing I am too old for him, thought we could talk Astrology. I also felt like I had known him before in another life or actually what came to me as I began watching one of his videos after another is how gifted and talented he is in Astrology. I was pleasantly surprised at how much love and passion he displayed in his videos about Astrology and he, too, was interviewing people on his You Tube channel.
Brilliant, (I thought!) to connect with someone from previous lives and also had a vision of knowing him from Heaven, image that! As I know I am a teacher of Metaphysics and Healer in Heaven, (this is my Soul's work, life time after life time) and in our Soul Group from Heaven. I could see him surrounded by students, literally cap and gown on like in the movie, "Goodbye Mr. Chips" ( though much younger!) and his students completely mesmerized with him! I, too, was in the back, observing his class, watching him teach Astrology with a passion and also Metaphysics. I know I know him and now I see from where. We are colleagues in Heaven. We have also had past lives together and this is why the instant connection, the instant recognition online. As he said to me, "I really like your energy!I am so drawn to you, the pull to you is so strong!" I liked him too and we spent a couple days chatting back and forth and finally connected on Skype. Since he was persistant that he liked me and my age was a big turn on to him, which made me laugh, we spoke on Skype. Immediately he was in his pajamas, with a robe on, told me how he was so sexually turned on by me, showed me this too when he stood up! (if you know what I mean...)
It made me laugh because I guess I was just amused and amazed by all this but it all got pretty hot and heavy with him sending me videos of him in bed and much sexual content in my FB chat. Within days that he spent masturbating to me (yes, he told me) I began to think this is just weird! A young, talented Astrologer, someone I am sure I have had past lives with and he was into me and it went straight downhill into the gutter! I was not really intending anything from this, as I said it was all a surprise but I did think he could co-host my Astrology Summit which I was in the process of planning with another Astrologer who I was friends with and who also had been a guest on my show a couple of times, also sent me his books and been nice enough to do the forward to my Metaphysics 2 Workbook. But we needed young blood, and this young Astrologer would bring in the youth, with their passion and love of Astrology. I asked him, in spite of all the stuff happening if he would co-host it and he said yes. It is interesting to note, once he had had his "fill" of me in his mind, he told me that "he did not want to be with me because I was 'catching feelings' for him and he wanted to have a child one day and he had not one but two other women he was interested in right now" !!
As the saying goes, you could have blown me down with a feather! Never did I say once that I had feelings for him. I contacted him to speak about the summit and he made it as if I was a groupie annoying him! LOL It was so shocking his masterbating behavior and yet I was still trying to be the dignified Astrologer and woman I am until this happened. Now, with all this in mind, I still watched his videos, even though he dismissed me like a used condom!
I watched to see what just happened to me, did he do this to others? I could not allow such a talented Astrologer to go to waste, I still wanted him to co-host my Astrology Summit. (Yes, I know, blame the Teacher in me and my very own past life memories!) And so when he agreed, and we supposedly put this whole wanking wonderland behind us, so I thought, I tried to get on with my Summit. I sent him emails about it which he did not respond to, claiming it was "mind boggling" information. Basically too much for him to read and respond to...and finally we set up another Skype appointment to discuss the upcoming Summit which was less than a week away, all the invitations had been sent and I had some of the best in the business along with these young, freshfaced whippershappers like him booked in to gather on Zoom and then some would be individually interviewed by me, by my other co-host and by him, I had hoped. He agreed to this and the day came to speak on Skype...I was there on time, I left a message, "call me when you are ready, I am here". No response, no reponse to any of my messages...finally 2 hours later....he writes he "does not want to speak to me but will do the interviews." This is insanity. I am really angry now and my writing went into all capital letters saying , "FACE THE MUSIC!" and it became clear as a bell...after he USED me in his mind, got every little thing he could from me to satisfy his lust and sexual fantasies (which must be about having sex with his mother, think about it!) he could not even look at me over Skype! Even with the promise of interviewing some of the ICONS of Astrology! No, he was just a coward, a user and abuser of women and some kind of sexual deviant! I promised there and then that he would be sorry how he delt with me and that he would know what it was like to feel exactly as he had treated me! He still wanted to do the interviews and yet would not speak to me, imagine the cheek! He just wanted to take and take and take...this is the kind of person out there posing as a Spiritual Teacher! I was shocked to see the truth, even though it hit me from the very first minute we chatted online. He got way too into me too fast, he got way too sexual with me when it was clearly inappropriate and he made promises he did not deliver on, not even close, in the meantime his entire "stick" is about "Love, Baby and Unity!" He is a liar, a deciever and best of all, a sexual preditor who uses Astrology to basically get shagged with no care whatsoever who he hurts, uses or takes from! I have seen it with Osho, other Guru types who use sex as a weapon and as a power to satisfy only themselves. Once they take from you, they discard you like yesterday's news and you are somehow suppose to be grateful that this asshole "chose YOU!" He even said that to me, in the middle of his trying to "dump me" he actually dared to say, "I have given YOU more attention than I have given anyone!" (I had 3 conversations with him!) and he went on, "I have two women wanting to speak to me on FB chat right now but I am speaking to YOU!" This is a Narc. Narcisstic Personality Disorder only ever does what is right for them and blames you if it is not. I had been HAD. I had been HURT. I had been SHOCKED. Had my own perception of this person who I met online been misguided, misplaced? Was I losing my ability to "Tune IN" to people?? I took a breath, backed off and just observed him on You Tube. I had to know, was it ME? Or was it HIM?
Oh, it was definately HIM! Once I watched about 10 of his videos, I saw things come together. His serious alchohol and drug abuse were noted in earlier videos, issues with an eating disorder where he could only eat potatoes, no wonder, the brain perhaps did not develop right, as well as he claimed to be "sexually abused" as a child. I have to say he was just "reinacting" that same abuse with me! I saw him say outrageously sexual things on his You Tube account which were so inapproprate that I actually "gasped" when I heard it! And I also saw that he has exzema, which means he scratches himself all the time while on You Tube and most of it is below camera so it looks like he is wanking himself while speaking about Astrology or interviewing someone else! Perhaps he can not help that, but he could use something on his skin? It does look weird, let me just say that! I also have to say, when I was so impressed by his Astrological Content online, I had to make a public announcement that he was no longer a part of my Astrological Summit on my FB page and various other Astrology Groups I belong to there. And with that powerful move came the help I need and the resistance. First the resistance, another young Astrologer said, "How dare you shame him in public!" and I tried to explain to her that his behavior was so inappropriate I had to distance myself publically from him. Clearly she was a fan, and she unfriended me on FB. Oh well, another one bites the dust!
BUT here comes the help: I got a private FB chat box message from another young Astrologer woman and she began to tell me that basically he did the exact same thing to her, and she knew many women in the Astrological communtity that he was also known to have done this to. Way too intimate too soon, way too unconscious about his boundaries, in fact, he had NONE and once he had used them or wanked to them they were, like me, yesterday's news! She told me she tried to help him (yeah, me too!) but in the end he just did the same exact thing to other women! Now I was in a CLUB I did NOT want to belong to but I was very thankful this young woman who is a lovely Astrologer came forward. She went on to do a You Tube video about appropriate BOUNDARIES when you are counselling someone with Astrology, because it is a type of Counseling and should never be used to get "laid" with! I told her I was going to get him fired and I did. I told his boss, who is a young and very successful Astrologer with a psychic/astrology line, well known one, where he works on, exactly what happened and how it happened and why he clearly would not be a great employee if he is wanking to her clients who call in for a reading or astrological consultancy with him!
Thank God, she heard me loud and clear and agreed and guess what, Folks? She had already had many complaints about him! Not only that, her own Medium warned her not to hire him but she heard his "sob story" and therefore allowed him to work there. I had written her on her Facebook page in the chat box and for her business in the chat box, but heard no reply. So I emailed her. She thanked me for getting in touch with her and she said it was a very serious issue and she took it very seriously and she would fire him immediately. When I told her about writing to her in the FB chat of her private page and her business page she told me "she had made HIM an admin so he must have DELETED what I wrote there!" And this just confirms what a devious character he is and she was sickened even more by that.
Well, she fired him. He cried like a baby, as they always do when they get caught! It is everyone else's fault but their own! Yeah, yeah, whatever. A 31 year old man should know better. This is NOT the swinging 60's nor it is an AIDS free society, he was asking me to have sex with him without a condom, as if it was ok and I said to him, "who says we are having sex?" Not just that, but the arrogance to assume everything. I put his nose out of joint and perhaps this was the entire point of our meeting? I left quite a few messages on his You Tube videos about him. But for legal reasons clearly I can not mention his name. He needs a good shrink, to grow up and clearly understand that women are not objects for his taking! Not at any age!
And that this, then, made me aware of my role from our soul group in Heaven. I heard my Guide say this to me, "Do you remember what a brilliant teacher he was and the pact you made with him should he falter again?" And like remembering an old movie, I could see it clearly as it came into view in my mind's eye...a brilliant Professor, like Chiron the Centaur himself, but woundered by lifetimes of alcohol abuse, drug abuse (last life died in the 1960's heyday of drugs) and sexual behavior that can only be called abusive, using, and indescriminant! I recalled him begging me to "Please, dear Soul Friend, make sure I do not misuse or abuse my power again!"
Clearly, I have done what he asked. Now it is up to him to take up the knowing that HE is responsible for HIS behavior. He told his boss, in tears, that he was sexually abused as a child, he even talks about it on his videos saying, "it happened and it was not the worst thing that has happened to me." Well it happened to me and millions of other children, sadly and WE do not go around sexually abusing OTHERS.
My work here is done!
As an aside: I have watched his videos since this to see what the fallout would be. In one, he clearly states himself to "not fall into shame, shame is a terrible thing"! If you do any inner work, you know that shame is the soul's way to say, "stop what you are doing, it is wrong!" And I have heard him quote me, use things I have said, as I am also uploading videos now for my radio show and my psychic work, advertising myself. I have seen him say on his videos that he is a "sexual person, a flirt and this is one of the things he likes the most about himself and he won't be changing that anytime soon!" So denial ain't a river in Egypt, is it? But in another video he clearly got blasted by his Astrological friends because he admits, looking sheepishly into his camera on his phone, "if I offended you by my flirtations I am sorry!"
Mmm, looks like he did not really learn his lesson. By their fruits you will know them. Counselling another human being, whether it is the Tarot, Astrology, Mediumship, Psychic work or Healing or Psychotherapy is a PRIVILEDGE and not to be taken lightly, ignorantly or abusing the power within that connection to another. I am a huge advocate for Women's Lib and therefore any man who seems to think women's bodies are just there for them to play with,satify themselves with sexually, without consideration for the person, their feelings and their connection is abusing women, end of!
If you would like to watch my latest Cafe Esoterica Radio now on You Tube, there was a show on with psychological Astrologer Rebeca Eigen on just last night. She wrote a book called, "Shadow Dance and the Astrological 7th House Workbook" and we had callers. You can not believe one of the callers had this person's birthday, not the year but the same day and month! What are the odds? Same exact degree of the Sun as him. Well, I guess that Syncronicity says it all.
Here is the link to the show and never let anyone abuse you! It is not right, nor it is healthy for any soul to do so. One day, perhaps in Heaven back to our Soul Group, he will thank me for chastizing him enough to get him to wake up and respect women as well as learn what is appropriate in his work with others. But for now, the jury is still out. Let's see.
Video of Cafe Esoterica Radio on You Tube is here: The Eye in the Sky music video, music and lyrics by Alan Parson's Project, no copywrite infringement intended. Same with all music on Cafe Esoterica Radio. This blog entry called, "Eye in the Sky" (c) Shawn M. Cohen Aug 31, 2018. If you would like to book a reading with Shawn or sign up for her next Tarot course beginning online Tuesday, Sept 16, 2018 please email: psychicshawncohen@gmail.com
